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This was close to ten years ago when I was in Chennai and going to the famous bus station in a local bus! ( Yes, bus! Now I don’t remember the last time I went in a bus!).

So I was already weary of the duty and since the journey takes around one hour I thought I can catch forty winks! Those were the days when during residency we used to get free time between duty and studies of around four to five hours and we were always sleep deprived!

Most of us will be walking around like zombies in the morning and reading like them in the night!

The minute we get any free time which could not be utilised for duty or study, we would sleep!
Of course normally sleep would come so easily and we were so proficient that we can sleep anywhere! Or in any position!

But just when I was looking forward to a quick nap, I got the misfortune of sitting next to a young (er!) guy who was yapping with his friend on the phone so loudly without a care of the world!

During those days I had enough drama in my life that I don’t have any need to eavesdrop into his conversation (still do but that’s an entirely different matter for a different Blog!); But the guy was speaking so loud that even the dude in the next seat could hear him loud and clear!

Imagine that this guy, let’s say X was enquiring the name of his friend’s girlfriend through the phone and that too so loudly!
He was telling him that he will keep it a secret!
For five minutes he cajoled and literally begged him to reveal the name!
When he finally did get the name, the whole bus heaved a sigh of relief!
If was Kavita if you must know!

He again persisted on details once the name was out!
How they met and how they meet!

It was then Lost my cool and I gently asked him to keep his talk low!

That’s when the scene changed!
Half of the bus was upset that the drama came to a stop! (Many had reached their stop but am sure that they continued!)
X angrily started abusing me in chaste Tamil and since I was just polishing my Palakkad Tamil, it was a lost cause from the word go!

I politely told him, “You just now promised your friend in the phone that you will keep the girl’s name secret and now even I know her name is Kavita!”

He was surprised and shocked at this revelation! He then accused me of deliberately trying to listen to his secrets!

Just when this argument was happening, an old guy from the back seat came and asked him, “Is your friend’s name Velu!?”

X replied in affirmative!

“My daughter is Kavita and Velu is our neighbour’s son! I thought he was a decent boy!” He said in chaste Tamil and almost catching X’s collar!

It was like karmic intervention for me! Of course I don’t know whether they were the same Velu and Kavita or what happened afterwards since our actual stop had arrived! But this whole experience did get my point across of mobile etiquette and how!

Just today waiting in a line at the super market (not everything can be ordered online always!); There was another such incident!
This time it was a girl, let’s call her U and she had one hand on the crate and another stabilizing the phone into which she was loudly conversing about how her work place was! The cashier automatically reduced her speed and gave her full attention to the drama!

I had of course learnt my lesson years back and just ignored everything including what she told about her neighbour, her mother in law and what not!

Just got my things, paid and left without an aa!

You do get wise when you get old (or married as the case may be!)

Mobile Phone is a luxury! Not a necessity! What can be said in five minutes can be stretched to hours! But what can be said in hours can still be said in minutes!
I have many times preferred the text to speech since it’s clear and concise and doesn’t disturb!

Many times I would ask even my friends to text me since I would be with my patients or even kids or family! Unless of course it’s urgent then I am sure that the person would call again rather than text!

Talking in public places is a responsibility! Why to broadcast your personal soap opera to the world!
But then that’s just my humble opinion! For everyone who doesn’t agree, broadcast away!

After a binge watch of all the spy series in Netflix and Amazon prime like the Bard of blood and Family man and Jack Ryan when I was trying to fill the gap caused by GOT completion, I chanced upon a popular series called the Walking Dead!

It was a juicy serial about a Sheriff who wakes up from a coma to be a part of a big zombie apocalypse!
America is obsessed with dystopia and zombie apocalypse!
Movies like World war z or Zombieland or the very famous Resident Evil series are a testimony to this fact!

In fact walking dead is a comic series and there have been numerous games inspired or based on this theme!
You have even modification and spin offs and what not!
There was an episode in Simpsons about this too in their Halloween special!

So coming to Walking Dead, this is an ongoing series and one of the few which keeps viewers engrossed to the last minute!

Just like GOT, it is essential that you do not get attached to any character! He or she may either die or turn into a zombie!

So while the series first starts with an intent to fight with the zombie, it later on progresses to Rick finding his family, then keeping his family, then it goes to getting a place then keeping the place then getting another place then losing the place then another place then keeping the place and so on!

While the first two seasons were mainly concentrated on the walkers much to our delight! The subsequent seasons were on the survivors who turn out to be bigger threat than the walkers!
Intermittently though walkers get into action and it’s a squeamish delight! But mostly they have been relegated to the back ground!
Lately the seasons have been focused on new type of threat called the whisperers!
This was like the critically acclaimed movie Bird Box which was also dystopian sans the walkers!
Be what may, it’s an entertaining series if you are into terror and horror! Or if you are simply bored cause that works too!!

So the quick guide to surviving zombie apocalypse are these!
– when in doubt run! So make sure you run and at least run faster than the next person or run towards a fat guy and out run him!!
– If it’s dark and you cannot see then wait for light or day! You know it’s not gonna end well!
– Never get relaxed or never put your guard down!
– don’t get bitten by walkers ever!
– aim at the head! Don’t waste time anywhere else!
– be a survivalist or at least make a friend who is one!
– learn how to farm and scout for things like food and medicine!
– remember that you cannot eat money so that’s never important!
– be prepared to eat anything but that of course does not mean that you start practicing that now!!
– learn how to use a bow or a spear or the most effective; a sword, especially a long one!
– try to gel with the crowd by not taking bath and covering yourself in filth so that you smell like them and even they will leave you alone!
– never trust anyone!
– if a group of zombies are attacking you then put that phone down and run!
Finally and most important! Be away from America! Since apparently most of the zombies end up there only!!

Check out the series though! It’s zombified fun!!

There’s this awesome and trendingdocumentary on Netflix called the game changers which is about sports men and women who have turned to plant based diet and have found amazing results!While initially I was a vegetarian due to the family environment, later on having being closely associated with animals and their welfare and having a genuine love and concern for animals dictated my life choices.It would be pertinent to say that having remained a vegetarian and teetotaler in a hostel in Kerala of all the places is in itself a big thing!Having braved all kinds of hurls and abuses and ridicule, I am glad that this documentary got released now!
The documentary shatters so many myths and misconceptions which we had about plant and animal based diet!Being a medico the first argument was usually technical in the lines of how animal protein was better and plant based diet was less in protein! The documentary shatters that myth in saying that animals are only middle men or brokers in that transaction!Then you have the myth how plant based diet doesn’t give you energy or endurance! Shattered again!Then about how it can work on Normal people but not on atheletes! That’s when the documentary gets into the food habits of many sports people like cyclist, wrestlers, weight lifting hulk Patrick! And a whole team of NFL players!
By careful analysis it gets into the scientific data and interpretation and creates a bang!It also debunks the myth that caveman were predominantly meat based!It starts with a trainer who gets into vegan diet for recovery from his injury and how!Then they show how even the most brutal fighters of the time, the Gladiators were vegetarians!Then of course you have the benefits of the plant based diet on a group of fire fighters who get their cholesterol, BP and stress get reduced in a week of plant based diet!Add to it you have a cook who can make them taste like any meat you like!Finally you have the Mr Universe! Arnold Schwarzenegger tell you the benefits of plant based diet! Digest that!For many still not convinced you have a urologist who demonstrates an experiment on how plant based diet is better for your sexual potency!Many other myths have been debunked, how soy phytoestrogens actually block the absorption of estrogens and how animal diet increases the estrogens and reduces the testosterone! So next time you feel manly after eating meat just know that it’s only a pseudo feeling!!😁😁Finally about vitamin B12 levels where it’s been proved that even animals are just middle men only! Take supplements even if you eat them! Since that’s deficient in both diet because of chemicals.I know you will ask about your canine teeth then! Fear not! That also has been dealt with!Then you have effect of meat and production of meat in the environment which is near catastrophic!Maybe this may not convince you to change but do watch it to see how meat industry is like the tobacco industry which gives you the myth of the meat and the man! Don’t fall for it!Finally please remember that this is not a sermon on vegan or vegetarianism! This is just so that next time no one will ask me why am I a vegetarian!? Just make sure you ask yourself, why aren’t you one!?Don’t miss the game changers which is shaking up the world! Maybe it will shake up yours too!Why the gorrilla sketch you ask! Well, one of the scenes they show how the strongest animals are herbivores like the elephant, rhino and the mighty Gorrilla!Also I am sure when you talk of men then this is the animal you must emulate right!?😀😀

The year was 1991 and we were glued to our TV sets since the once in a year grammy awards were being shown!Those were the days when award shows were like the guide for people like us to decide which movie to watch and which song to listen!Still remember how we used to watch the Filmfare awards and rush the next day to the video parlor to get the tape of the movie which got the maximum awards or the best movie award!Still remember how I bought the movie Khoon Bhari Maang after we saw the amount of nominations it got!Somehow though songs were accessible immediately and there were many movies which used to run only because the songs were super hit!The era of audio cassettes ensured that Hindi and Indian language movie songs were purchased without the wait of the awards since at that time there was no great award for music or any musical show as such!There were times when the songs were so good but the movie turned out to be such a let down! Ashiqui is one movie which comes to mind on this!English songs though were tough since they were expensive stuff and we had to rely on these awards to make a choice!
We used to see grammy and get the best of grammy collection to get the maximum benefit from the award show!!The movie was Robin hood and the song was “Everything I do, I do it for you!”
That was when we knew that Bryan Adams had arrived! This thin not so great looking guy with not so melodious voice had instantly become the heartthrob of millions of Boys and especially girls!Every other show will have this dedication from a love struck Romeo!Add the fact that he did not have any muscles made many boys relate to him more and more importantly have some hope! 😀His next door boy look and intense and deep voice with moving lyrics made him an instant pin up for boys and girls alike! Guys wanted to be like him and girls just wanted to listen to him!Although Bryan was already popular with his Summer of 69 song, it was this number which made him and the movie popular!Bryan still continued to rule when we moved on to college by that cheeky album called, “18 till I Die!”.
Apart from the title song, the song called “I wanna be!” Also stood out!Who can forget songs like cloud number nine or heaven!
His coarse voice still has the strength to make millions drool!
This was of course before another Canadian singer Justin Bieber came and repeated what Bryan did!That line makes me realise how old I have become!Anyways, birthday wishes to the one and only Bryan!
Like you I also say 18 till I Di(y)e 😜😀😀

The weekends of DD!

Those were the days when the options were none and you would just take what’s given!
Oh to be able to go back to no choices!

Just last week we had all the channels and the firestick and subscription to most of the online streaming apps and we ended up watching Malgudi Days just for old times sake!

Still remember how Mahabharata and Ramayana would bring the whole country to a standstill and the whole family would be glued to the small screen mostly black and white TV just to get a glance of Rama and Ravana! If you had a colour TV then you were the most sort after!
How those two arrows used to come towards each other simultaneously emitting light or fire and getting the other one!
It was simply magic!
And now if we see that, our kids will ridicule us to no end!
Mahabharat by Chopra is still watchable even now though!

The icing on the cake would of course be the weekend movie!
Being spoilt for choice means that you have never understood the joy of waiting the whole week to see a movie! And now we can’t even see the full ad in you tube and hit the skip ad button till it works!

Those days though a good movie would be rarity and most movies will the the ones which would not have made much money!
In those times movies were great when something special happens or its a special day! Still remember the Gandhi which was a constant during most National holidays!

Those days the best movies were the ones which had Amitabh Bachchan in it! It was a forgone conclusion that if a movie has Amitabh Bachchan then that movie will automatically be good and entertaining!
Only exception (for the little me and not the wise present me!) Was a movie starring Amitabh Bachchan called the Saudagar! This is not the new Saudagar which had the ILU song! In this movie, Amitabh was a lowly and selfish jaggery seller! It was a drag during that time though now I would appreciate it more!

Apart from this exception, most of his movies were a crowd puller to the weekend TV!

Another time when you get good movie was when an actor or a star associated with a famous movie died!
If that was a big star then rest assured you will get a good movie of the star in the weekend! It was tragic and cool at the same time!

We still remember when Amjad Khan died and everyone were excited that DD will show Sholay! That was his best film and that’s the way it normally is!

Of course they did not put Sholay and gave us Amjad Khan with Jeetendra in tight pants! A movie called Hatim Tai! Of course since it was a special effects movie, it was not a complete washout!

It was no Sholay though! We always had a discussion about who has to pass away for Sholay to come to TV!

Even after the emergence of cable TV, Sholay still did not make its way to the idiot box soon! Surprisingly we have many latest movies nowadays which come to us within months!

So the appearance of Sholay was a grand event! I think it was in the year 1995 even finally it was shown!
The movie was so long that even rental videos had two copies!
And add to the advertisements of those days it was not like watching ads between movies but watching movie between the ads!
We were upset also that there was a power cut in the middle. We were fervently hoping that the electricity board may make an exception to the load shedding for one day since you don’t get Sholay transmitted everyday! But I guess most in the electricity board did not watch Hindi movies!

The consolation was that most got to watch the beginning funny part and the tragic end!
So movies may come and go but for a KV kid of the 80-90s, Sholay would remain that movie which was the King! And of course Amitabh Bachchan will be our first super star!

Wanna select!? Head or head!?😁😁
Now lemme see what series to download so that I can binge watch it without ad on my tab!

The mists of Brahma by C Doyle

Book review

Rating 4/5

Complete puranic fiction

No spoilers

Part 2 of a series of minimum three or may be more

Do not read without reading the first one called the Pathala Prophecy since then you will be lost!

Also do not read if you are planning to finish the series since the wait is for one or more year for the next book!

In some sense though there is a partial closure of sorts so you will not be disappointed!

The review has spoilers from the first one so if you have not read that then please Stop reading this review!

So the book continues where it left in the first. Maya gets most of the role and she is the chief protagonist in this book for now. Arjun literally takes a back seat which can be the way forward or it could be that he will be more prominent in the next novel.

C Doyle’s quests series like the Mahabharata and Alexander quest were notorious for giving incomi endings and I sincerely hope that this is not the way this series will go!

There is a liberal dose of mantra and puranic lore which may not be digestible for the high and mighty reader who frowns upon a sanskrit mantra but gobbles down a Potter spell with hypocritic ease!

The treatment is similar to Ashwin Sanghi and Amish Tripathi but the product is much different than either of them!

The villian Shukra has been shown to be ruthless and powerful and that’s one way to get interest in the story!

Chronologically the story moves in a very effective and even pace and I must say that it is pretty impressive!

The author is also a reader of Subha Villas whose Ramayana series is even my favourite and must read!

All in all with simple grammar and storyline the narration is fast paced and full of thrill and action with a generous dose of emotion!

Readers of Indian authors can grab this one without much thought while others can try it just for some Indian spice!

It May not win any literary awards but will definitely entertain you only if you let it!

Let the mists clear!

War- the good the bad and the ugly!

My rating 5/5 for action dance look and style! 1/5 for Tiger twist!

If you have not seen the movie then stop! Bad
Spoilers ahead!

So you have a supposedly bad Hrithik going on a killing spree in the beginning!
Then they call the only one who can stop him that is the supposedly good tiger!
Then there’s a flashback where you have both good Hrithik and Tiger meeting and going on the first good mission!

Then there is a very good dance number by the two very very good dancers in the country!

Just when it was getting good it goes bad in the second mission where things get ugly!

Then Tiger gets hit bad physically while Hrithik gets it mentally bad!

Then cut to present and another kill by the now bad Hrithik in a very good action packed scene!

Then you have a good cute girl who is a bad goalkeeper but gets a good free advice by the bad for others but good for her Hrithik!

Then another good and bad flashback where you see Vani Kapoor who is a good dancer and there is a good song and dance number!
Then again when it is looking good it gets bad and ugly and we get to present!

In present, the bad Hrithik now kills a supposedly good scientist and the supposedly good Tiger is not able to stop him!

But then they meet and after a good round of fight they both become good to each other!

Again just when you thought it is going to be good it gets bad when they show that Tiger is bad and it’s gets ugly when they show the he is not even Tiger!

The last good fight we see a good Hrithik fighting the now bad and ugly (in nature!) Tiger fighting and in typical Vijayadashami style the good always wins!

The original good Tiger gets his much required due!

In the end the now good Hrithik decides to remain bad to catch the bad!

And that my folks is the movie war!!
Good was acting and action and dance and looking super cool! Bad was knocking off Tiger! And ugly was knocking off Vani!

Overall a good time pass!!

Chanakya the legend begins by
Ashok Banker

Book review

No spoilers since it’s a recap of Ithihasa

Rating 3/5

Another book on Chanakya which reminds me of the biography of Leonardo Da Vinci by Walter Isaacson. Of course that was a classic rendition of what would have happened including the finer details of day to day life of the genius! With amazing details and language!
In this book the depiction is more simpler but the view point and the retelling has been made so detailed that it is praiseworthy!
Everyone knows the broad story of CHANAKYA but that short story has been extended and elaborated to the screenplay of a soap!

So starting from the obvious fact that CHANAKYA was an intelligent and brave pundit to how he enthralls everyone with his intellect is the crux of the story!

Then you have the other hero in CHANAKYA which is the King Chandragupta who has been shown to be brave and cunning! And who could hold on his own!

This is only the first book so this acts like an introduction to characters only.

Two very scary characters have been introduced and I am thinking that maybe the writer has been influenced by Game of thrones!
So while the prime minister called the Maha Amatya Rakshasa is like Patir Baelish, the other very dark and frankly disturbing character is the young prince who reminds me of Joeffery Baratheon!
Both equally cruel and wicked and frankly sick to the core! The description of gore is a recent very disturbing trend but I guess maybe that’s closer to the truth!

So you have a brief introduction and description of characters and at the end of the first book they have met each other and round one is done!

Since I knew this is Trilogy the end was expected! I would now wait for both the books and then start the second one!

Already we have Amish’s Ramayana series in book three and to be continued! Then we have Patala prophecies in the same state! Add William Warwick series when I was just glad that the Clifton Chronicles came to an end!

The wait for next is not something which I look forward to!

So my advice is to either wait it out and complete in one go or torture yourself in anticipation! Your choice!

Riding the Wave…Board!

 

Many years back…

It was simpler times when summer vacations meant that we spend most of the time outside and playing till it rains or we are too tired to play (that never happens!) or we get a call from the house! Or the most important reason is when we have to answer the nature’s call!

 

The first thing we usually used to do was finish most of the Holiday work like writing pages in Hindi or English or making some dumb project about the planet!

Apart from that no one was seen inside the house and that is how it was!

Since I was a big bookworm, when we were forced to spend time in the house then it was either devouring the comics or some novel!

If there was no one to play then I would simply take my roller skates and skate away!

 

Indoor meant that either it was raining or we were tired of skating or it was too late or too early time of the day! Or it was simply that the place you were posted (not me as such but my Dad!) was not a city!

 

This was when we were posted in a remote place called Missamari which even many Assamese also do not know and the only time we used to get comics or newspapers was once a month or week when the delivery guy in his unmistakable Bullet Enfield Bike used to get it and deliver much to our delight!

Since my uncle was in the media group we used to get a steady supply of comics especially the Disney ones and they were so great to read!

One such comic mentioned this new plaything called the Skateboard! The depiction and the illustration was so nice and that was the apparent new craze especially since Huey (the nephew’s of Donald were called Huey duey and Luey! I may have spelt them wrong here since it is from memory so bear with me since this has nothing to do with the story!), mentioned that it was more cool and better than roller skates!

 

Since I was already skating for one year now this new contraption which unfortunately had not made its way to India looked very interesting! When I showed the snap to my brother, he remarked that this is just a wood on wheels which we can easily make with our skates!

 

We had this piece of Plywood which was almost like a family heirloom and supposedly very lucky and every time an examination was looking nearby we took turns to use this wood for supporting our books when we read!

Also that was the only thick wood available! So my roller skates and the wood and all we needed was a rope or band! There was this white and blue elastic which was very common those days and I am sure many will know the actual function of that now! We of course were interested only in the mango and not the seed so to speak!

 

Anyhow, the skates were placed in either corner and tied by the elastic thread and it looked almost like the skateboard especially if you see it from the side and keep one eye closed! Of course the modification meant that we cannot stand on it but sit and maybe in the later version work on standing version!

 

In most new things which requires one person to sit and another to push, the fight is usually for sitting since no one likes to push or pull the other! But since this was a trial run in a fishy looking apparatus, my brother graciously volunteered to push and said that anyway I would not be able to push!

 

We had a long corridor and mom was busy in the kitchen so that was the testing location! The dangling wood was hard to balance but somehow I sat in the middle and my brother then gave me a push! It was awesome for one split second after which everything went awry! The “Special Skateboard” version 1 went sideways and turned with two skates going in opposite direction and the wood hitting the wall and getting cracked at the edges and me falling with a thud on my bottom!

Since the noise was not much, the damage control team (my brother and me!) did not have much trouble in cleaning the crime scene! Only indication of something amiss was my slight limp when I used to walk or sit especially in the right side for a week!

 

That was the end of the Skateboard chapter! We covered the board with brown paper to hide the evidence and moved on to other such amazing ‘experiments’!!

 

 

Cut to the present!…

 

So I again learnt how to ride the roller skates since I used to ride only the quad skates but later on to teach my daughter I learnt the inline skates! She also followed suit but then not long after we both saw the Waveboard! This was like the upgraded version of skateboard! This had only two wheels which moved in all direction and looked much more complex to drive! It had a self motion and in spite of all the fear looked so cool to ride!

 

We were both trying to hold our temptations but when her best friend not only got a wave board but also became good in riding it, we finally gave in and went to the sports store to get one!

 

The guy there showed us the good and sturdy one and one look at that and my hand by reflex went to my emotionally sore bottom!

In any case I decided that it was time to bury the past and try this one!

First attempts were in the house and later on we moved on to the corridor (another one of course!); all with guards and helmets and back straps and what not!

After many tries and you tube video tutorials we finally got to know the theory and after lots of practice we got the flow!

Of course there were obstacles like when I did not wear my back support (yes I wear a Back belt to be safe!) and the sudden twist gave me a back pain which lasted for one week and nearly dented my enthusiasm to learn! But when my daughter used to look at me and at the Board, I knew that this was not the time to give up!

Of course most of the time I will do it first and hold my daughter when she does the same! That is why it was important to be confident and not fall thinking of the past!

 

 

The trick is to have a firm first step and a slight push and then place the second leg firmly but be mobile and rock the back and front in a smooth movement and you will be mobile till you rock the BOARD!

 

The best thing of course is the amazing feeling of moving the board on land and it feels like moving on top of a wave like surfing and since I do not surf (not yet anyway!), I can always imagine that this is how it feels!

 

It may not be a great achievement but for a guy in his forties to first do Quad Skates then Inline Skates and now Wave Board which I realise now may be more difficult to ride but is much safer (since It is a rule that if you do not fall you can never learn to cycle or skate! But the Wave Board you can control yourself quite well and not fall!)

 

Just remember that you protect yourself well and do not think about your failed attempts or in my case, a sore bottom!

So if a non Athletic nerd like me can do it then I am sure you can also try to ride the Wave (Board!)!…

 

The image of the engineer responsible for the Mission Chandrayan crying on national Television and being consoled by the Prime Minister literally split the social media! Of course most had sympathy and concern for the Indian Space program (I did not say that the split was even!) but the view was directed to the fact that we saw a grown up man of a big institute crying on national TV!

While many were of the view that it is just natural and human to give in to your emotions, there were also those who opined that how can you manage such an important and complex job if you cannot control your emotions!

The other big such a cry was when Vinod Kambli let it out in during the world cup! There also there were divided people though the lack of social media made sure that it was not wide! But whenever we used to discuss this in our group there will be many who would support but say nothing while many self appointed macho men used to ridicule saying how he cried like a girl!

I also remember how the legend Kapil Dev broke down during the allegations of match fixing!

This was of course during the time when social media was limited only to your locality but now thanks to the social media, the whole world is our locality to discuss and dissect!

In fact many times the original article may not be very interesting but we have seen that the comments are many times very interesting and they make the news and also they are an indication of the pulse or the opinion of the general population!

All this used to make me wonder whether as a Guy or Man should I cry openly when I want or I must hide my emotions all the time and never ever cry in public or in the open!

The only time I have seen my father cry was when he lost his mother and the impact was so deep that even though I was not very old, I do remember that day as clear as yesterday! That one act made me realise that beneath his tough army exterior is a man who loved his mother so much!

Crying is one of the basic emotions which makes us human and gives us a position which is right there up in the ecological tree. It is also understood that we can laugh at anyone or anything and without any feeling but we do cry only for things or people we care about. So in that sense crying is an emotion which gives us a beautiful insight on our true emotions.

Of course the general Opinion is that true men do not cry which is very sad indeed because as far as masculinity is concerned it takes more courage and strength to cry than to laugh and that too in the open! It is said that you can hide your emotions when you laugh but it is very difficult to hide them when you cry. That reminds me of the famous song which mentioned that no one can see your tears when you are crying in the rain. It also reminded me of the movie Aquaman where the queen cries on land and says that underwater in Atlantis our tears are taken away by the Sea which was a deep dialogue for a super hero movie!

Whenever someone is faced with an toil of extreme emotion he or she should actually cry and let it out so that he or she can face the problem in a more calm and relieved way. There may be so many movies which makes us laugh which we do like but those movies which make us cry and brings our true emotions are the ones which we genuinely like though no man would be man enough to admit that!

In fact people would forget the times they have laughed or been happy but you would rarely forget the events which made you cry or emotional.

There is also a very famous saying by the great Poet Kabir who said that when we are born we cry and the world laughs so make sure that when you die then the world cries and you laugh (It of course means that you must do good deeds so that people will miss and cry for you when you die!).

Of course that means that when someone close to you passes away, it is natural that you cry and you must if you want to! The matter of gender should not be an issue!

In the program Satyamev Jayate, Amir Khan’s guest had opined that nowadays people are told not to cry, especially men and in a misguided form of feminism, even women are told not to cry even if someone close to you dies or suffers a misfortune! The digital age has made us more mechanical and robotic and that is just sad! For this Amir Khan replied that then he is not a man since he cries at the drop of a hat!

The myth that so called macho men do not cry is of course suspect! The most macho men of the bollywood family of the Deols, which includes the original he man and macho man Dharmendra and Sunny Deol who are known for their body and tough nature apparently cry or let out their emotions almost every other day!

So the next time you want to prove your machismo by not crying, you are going in the wrong direction!

Of course it does not mean that men who cry cannot handle stress! In fact, when it is a matter of stress they tackle them head first and after the situation is settled they let out their emotional waterfall!

It has also been found that crying is beneficial to the health and body as well! Lets look at some of the benefits of crying:

Regulation of emotion, soothing mind and reducing the distress and stress.

Interpersonal or social benefit

Relieves pain by releasing oxytocin and endorphins

Enhances mood

Releases toxins and Relieves Stress

Aids in sleep

The tears have an antibacterial called Lysozyme which gives local protection

Crying also relieves headache and stress and also makes us calm and relaxed.

So next time you want to let out your emotions just cry your heart out irrespective of your gender and do not worry about your masculinity which will be safe!