Don’t let others rent space in your head by Gary Coxe

Don’t let others rent space in your head by Gary Coxe

E Book

Like all self help books; this one is supposedly different! It is in many ways in fact!

Also, if it is a self help book then there is no doubt that the person who writes it has to have had a major tragedy and then recovered and is now successful at least while writing the book!

Those points are met since the author in fact faces a great challenge at the beginning of his life and then he not only recovers but also becomes really good!

There are so many contradicting things he says in the novel and most of the times it does make sense!

The best parts are the one liners including the title of the book and these are written separate with a summary at the end of each chapter and that it really great for a quick revision!

One of this is the adage that, Nothing is good or bad, but thinking makes it so! This is really true most of the time!

Irrationally Optimistic or Being very confident is also not good! Apparently Positive thinking is like a spray paint on rust!

A goal is just a dream with a deadline is supposedly ridiculous!

First, positive thinking, even if it seems to work, doesn’t last long. Second, positive thinking is absolutely ineffective if you’re not at the right point in your life. Third, when it doesn’t work, people think they’re not doing it right, and they become more discouraged.
Fourth, positive thinking is often presented as the SOLUTION rather than a simple limited use tool!

The amazing story of the friend who bought a hotel, which was derelict and very close to the airport, but he turned it into a profitable venture. His name is Butch Steward! This was mentioned in the beginning and in the end and is an inspiring story!

Then he talks about insurance. People buy insurance because bad things happen. In most cases, insurance is the real-world manifestation of negative thoughts and a plan to prepare for less than perfect outcomes. It is actually a positive plan for negative possibilities.

In one chapter he states how Negative thinking can yield positive results. Planning for failure keeps us from being caught off guard. Too many sales professionals don’t acknowledge failure as a possible outcome, so when it happens, they are devastated. Avoiding negative thoughts can be deadly.

He also states how frustration equals success!! As you overcome challenges and reach higher and higher goals in your business, the number and type of frustrations that arise often grows!


Rewiring your brain- Going beyond positive thinking; the four step process; this is the core of the book in the self help section and it goes in steps. Though I did not do the steps, am sure if you do, it may help!

The first step in this is You must ask yourself ‘Why must I change this behaviour?’ and then write
The challenge or behaviour I want to change or overcome is:

He also states that often the more painful, the right to the Top, the more memorable and motivating it becomes!

Then he mentions an interesting story on how he was almost caught by the DEA on drug smuggling due to a series of confusions and stereotyping! A great story indeed!

He later tells how the nervous system or rather the brain cannot tell the difference between reality and imagination, so imagine more!

Our perception of problems, obstacles are challenges takes on a whole new meaning when we have a goal !

People who would suggest that one should sell his or her aeroplane and give the money to charity, have an incredibly shortsighted view apparently! This is one of the points like Ayn Ryan and was close to my thought process!

The author says that first of all if he didn’t love flying and wasn’t driven to acquire a plane or a helicopter, he wouldn’t have worked so hard, what’s more occasionally, he is able to fly to special needs children to various places for medical treatment at no cost. He could never do that if he had no plane or he had sufficient budget for Travel. He could continue to contribute charities and help deserving families only as long as he keeps his own financial resources in line.

Basically, only the rich can actually do charity, but by doing charity, you must not become poor!

This is so true according to me since I genuinely feel open charity is only to feed your own ego! Nothing is and must be free! Only then both the giver and the taker would understand its value!

All in all a very good novel to read indeed and a little different than the usual horde!

Just remember that, DO NOT let others rent space in your brain! For free! Meaning; Do not let stuff especially of those who cheated you or harmed you to be in your minds and spoil it! Easier said than done! But then nothing good comes easy!

right!?