“Mark tells you that you may know this person!
He or she is a mutual pal!
Of course he or she may be close to you!
Or you may not know him or her at all!”
Being the son of an army officer, shifting and getting uprooted from a place was a routine affair! I have known friends who have stayed in the same place and same school for ages or since they were born! I would have changed at least six schools and many more places in my life! Every two to three years just when friendships are getting strong and may be for life time, you are separated and may never see those kids ever again in your life!
Of course if you spend more than two years in a place and in senior grades like after 6 then in all probability you can still contact your old friends and may be get in touch! A reunion here and there and may be remember the good old days!
Your college mates of course will be more in touch since we spend more than five years (six if you count residency!) with them! Then your hostel mates or room mates or medically BODY MATES! Yes! That was not a typo! Body mates are literally the ones with whom you share a BODY! The dissection which is done in the first year is done and usually a single body (it is known as a cadaver!) is shared by a group of people!
Usually these people would be facing the exams and the stress and the whole course together! Usually they are close and maybe for a long time!
Having suffered the uprooting and shifting in army life, you may know a lot of people! Your Facebook and other social media list of friends would be huge! But with all the friends in the world and in your friend list, there may be only a few whom you can call close!
Now I was used to this shifting and not forming close bonds for long but for my children the shift from India to another country was tough! They had spent all their time in a single school and in a single place! They had actually spent all their conscious part of their life in the same house with the same neighbor! So when they shifted out, it was a big shock especially to my son who had a big group of friend!
The initial enthusiasm of new place and new stuff and being with family made way to the realisation that he may not see his old friends again!
Of course unlike us, the phone makes sure that you may not lose touch with them but still nothing can replace the Human touch! Then again kids are amazing! They take very little time to get over stuff! They make new friends in an instant and then the whole cycle starts again!
That is life and change is life! In spite of all these I still remember those amazing time when we used to watch a single movie with friends and enjoy not only the movie but also the company! One such movie was Maine Pyar Kiya! Talking about that movie reminds me not only of my friends but also birthday celebrity the dear mom Reema Lagoo!
Now say good nigh to your friend WhatsApp group and sleep!
Shubh Ratri!
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